Dissociation can make a day feel like an out-of-body report instead of a lived experience. Time slips. Conversations blur. Emotions go missing, or they crash through without warning. For many people with complex trauma, dissociation was once a brilliant adaptation, a way to keep living while unlivable things were happening. In therapy, though, that same adaptation can complicate progress. You sit down intending to heal, then lose the thread. Your mind fogs just as a tender memory surfaces. You leave discouraged, maybe blaming yourself for not being “present enough.”
EMDR Therapy can help, but only if safety and grounding come first. When EMDR is adapted to the dissociative mind and body, it becomes less about pushing through traumatic memories and more about building a sturdy bridge back to the present. That bridge is what allows processing to happen without collapsing into overwhelm.
What dissociation asks of us
Clinically, dissociation ranges from everyday spacing out to more severe experiences like depersonalization, derealization, time loss, identity confusion, and dissociative identity disorder. At its core, dissociation disconnects awareness, sensation, memory, or identity in order to protect against intolerable pain or danger. The nervous system shifts into survival modes that prioritize distance from threat over contact with reality.
Therapy that ignores this will often feel like hitting a wall. Clients can appear fine, even cheerful, yet feel far away inside. Others report blackouts during sessions, headaches, nausea, or body numbness. These are not signs of failure, resistance, or lack of motivation. They are signs that the system is working too hard to stay safe.
EMDR’s standard protocol assumes enough stability to hold a memory in mind while engaging bilateral stimulation and letting the brain metabolize what was locked away. With dissociation, that assumption needs careful testing. If the client cannot maintain dual attention, standard EMDR can flood or fragment. The fix is not to force the issue, but to lay a foundation: precise assessment, resourcing, titration, and a shared language for tracking states.
Safety is the treatment
I often find that the early sessions are where the biggest gains happen. When someone learns to recognize the onset of a dissociative state and adjust in real time, they reclaim choice. They stop being ambushed by their own nervous system. That alone can reduce shame, social fallout, and household conflict.
Grounding is not a set of tricks to “snap out of it.” It is a practice of befriending the body, naming internal shifts, and widening the window of tolerance. Over time, this practice confers a quality of safety that travels. It follows you into a crowded grocery store, a high-stakes work meeting, a difficult talk with your partner, or a moment of grief at a graveside. When safety is established, EMDR can move from avoidance to healing.
How EMDR changes shape with dissociation
The Eight Phases of EMDR still guide the work, but the tempo shifts.
- History and treatment planning become a collaborative mapping project. We chart triggers, protective parts, medical issues, sleep, substance use, and relational supports. If grief is central, we note anniversaries, unfinished conversations, and family rituals. If couples therapy or family therapy is underway, we coordinate so the relational field supports, rather than destabilizes, processing. Preparation is extended. Instead of two or three resourcing exercises, we may spend multiple sessions building, testing, and practicing skills. We install resources not just as concepts, but as embodied patterns the client can access quickly. Assessment and desensitization are titrated. We work with memory fragments or sensory slices, not full storylines. We shorten sets of bilateral stimulation, switch modalities as needed, and pause often to check orientation and consent. Re-evaluation is frequent and curious. We track what changes between sessions, what feels easier, what got stirred up, and what needs shoring up before proceeding.
Trauma therapy that respects dissociation looks less dramatic than some expect. There are fewer cathartic breakthroughs, more https://www.mindbodysoulmates.com/parts-work-therapy micro-adjustments. Still, the cumulative gains can be profound: steadier sleep, improved focus, embodied emotions that do not bowl you over, a felt sense of choice.
Assessment that actually helps
A good intake sets the tone. I want to know what dissociation looks like for you, not just in DSM terms. When do you first notice it? What body cues precede it? What helps, even a little? What has made it worse in past therapies? Are there parts of you that worry therapy will take away necessary protections?
We also clarify context. Current stressors, caregiving roles, ongoing legal matters, and acute bereavement may influence pacing. If someone is dealing with a recent death, we might introduce elements of grief therapy before touching attachment trauma. If a couple is strained by one partner’s dissociation, looping in their couples therapist to align boundaries and safety plans can prevent avoidable ruptures.
Medical considerations matter. Thyroid issues, concussion history, medication changes, and sleep deprivation can all affect dissociation. Stimulants and certain antidepressants can increase hyperarousal in some people, while sedatives can blunt engagement. Coordination with prescribers is not optional when dissociation is significant.
Preparing the nervous system
Preparation is the heart of EMDR for dissociation. We are teaching the body and mind to orient safely, to return from the edge, and to trust that no one part will be bulldozed.
Here are five concrete practices I use and teach, with the aim of making them second nature:
Orienting to the room. Slowly scan with your eyes and name out loud five neutral or pleasant objects in your visual field. Then name three sounds, two smells, and one texture under your hand. This is not a test, it is an invitation to let the senses re-anchor the present.
Weighted presence. Place a five to ten pound blanket or lap pad across your thighs. Feel where the weight meets your muscles and the chair. This steady pressure often helps when limbs feel floaty or unreal.
Breath with counting. Inhale for four, hold for one, exhale for six. If breath practices have triggered you before, skip this one. The exhale extends the parasympathetic response without forcing stillness.
Safe place plus movement. Most clients know the classic safe place imagery. For dissociation, I pair it with a small motion, such as rolling a therapy ball in the palm or pressing feet alternately into the floor. This anchors the image to a bodily rhythm you can reproduce anywhere.
Containment imagery that actually contains. We build a vault, a time capsule, or even a storage locker with a keypad. The metaphor should fit your psyche. We rehearse placing intrusive images or sensations inside for later, then check that the container holds. If it leaks, we fix it, not push past.
These practices are rehearsed both in and out of session. I want clients to know exactly which one to reach for when an early warning sign shows up, and to feel agency in choosing.
Building trust with parts
When dissociation includes parts or distinct self states, EMDR preparation includes respectful internal diplomacy. We listen for the protectors who roll their eyes at therapy or dread being overwhelmed. We ask what would make participation tolerable. Sometimes it is as simple as agreeing not to touch a particular memory without advance notice. Sometimes we create an internal observation deck where protectors can watch sessions without having to feel them.
Resource Development and Installation, a specific EMDR approach, helps here. We identify qualities the system needs more of, such as courage, patience, or humor, then strengthen real experiences of those qualities with bilateral stimulation, often gentle tactile buzzers or slow taps. This can soften polarization between parts. The goal is consent, not coercion.
Choosing and adjusting bilateral stimulation
Bilateral stimulation can be visual, auditory, or tactile. With dissociation, the rule is modulation. Rapid eye movements may be too activating. Tactile buzzers at low intensity, alternating knee taps, or soft auditory tones often work better.
I change speed and duration based on minute-to-minute feedback. If a client gets spacey, I slow or pause and orient. If they freeze, I might invite pushing their feet into the ground or grasping the chair arms while we briefly increase speed, then slow again. The point is to keep one foot in the present and one toe in the memory, not to yank the body into a historical vortex.
Cognitive interweaves, short therapist prompts, help when the brain stalls. For example, “How old are you in this memory and how old are you now?” or “Who has the power here, then and now?” These are not debates, just threads that reconnect the processing network to adult reality.
Titration, pendulation, and pacing
We work small. Instead of processing an entire assault, we might process the sound of the door latch, or the smell of a hallway. We pendulate, moving between a resource and a mild piece of the target, watching arousal rise and fall. If spikes are steep, we step back. If the client stays flat, we may gently increase contact with the memory or choose a more emotionally resonant slice.
Pacing is a clinical judgment shaped by data. I track heart rate, breath, muscle tone, and micro-expressions. I also watch for the glossed-over look that often precedes a dissociative slide. Clients learn their own signals: a sudden urge to please me, a hollowing behind the eyes, a chill in the hands. Naming these in real time prevents both of us from missing the moment.
When grief and relationships are part of the story
Dissociation frequently entwines with grief. Children who lost a parent early, adults who lived through multiple deaths, survivors who were never allowed to mourn, all develop strategies to not feel what would have destroyed them then. Grief therapy integrates with EMDR by honoring loss directly. Sometimes we process memories of the funeral, the last conversation, or the day the call came. Other times we process a belief like “If I start crying, I will never stop.” The container needs to be especially sturdy, with rituals that mark beginnings and endings of grief work.
Relational trauma rarely heals in a vacuum. Couples therapy can help a partner understand dissociation without personalizing it. Simple agreements, like using a pause word when one person is sliding away, or delaying high-stakes talks until both are regulated, reduce re-injury. Family therapy, especially with adolescents, can teach language for states and co-regulation habits that prevent crises. In my experience, when the household aligns around safety practices, EMDR gains consolidate faster.
Edge cases and cautions
There are times to slow down or temporarily avoid direct trauma processing.
- Active self-harm or suicidal planning needs stabilization first. We co-create a safety plan, add crisis resources, and sometimes involve higher levels of care. Psychosis, mania, or severe dissociative fugue states call for medical evaluation and coordinated care. EMDR may still play a role later, but not in acute phases. Heavy substance use blunts gains and can spike dissociation as substances wear off. Integrating addiction treatment is not optional. Sleep deprivation magnifies dissociation. I take a functional history of sleep and, if needed, refer for a sleep study or behavioral sleep medicine. For DID, switching during EMDR is common. We hold a respectful frame where each part’s limits are honored. Sometimes we process with a specific part while others watch from the observation deck. Sometimes preparation lasts months. That is not a detour, it is the road.
None of this negates hope. It aligns treatment with the realities of a nervous system doing its best.
What progress actually looks like
People often expect therapy to change how they feel first. With dissociation, progress often shows up in function before feeling. Work days go more smoothly. You catch the slide earlier and return faster. You remember more of what you read. You argue less at home because you ask for a pause before things spiral. You sleep a bit better on average, maybe 30 minutes longer per night. The jump from numb to connected may still be uneven, but the floor rises.
Eventually, the interior terrain changes. Memories that once knocked you flat feel like pages, not live wires. Emotions show up in proportion to the moment. The body feels like a place you live in, not a stranger you carry around. Some clients describe color returning to their days. Others talk about a simple quiet they do not have to earn.
A brief case vignette
A composite client, let’s call her Maya, came to EMDR after years of white-knuckle coping. She lost her father at nine, survived chronic emotional neglect, and learned early to be the competent one. In sessions, she was bright and articulate, then would lose time when we got close to pain. She left feeling ashamed for “wasting” therapy.
We spent our first six sessions in preparation. We practiced orienting and weighted presence until they worked even on bad days. We built a container and repaired it twice. We negotiated with a skeptical protector part who worried EMDR would unravel Maya’s ability to function at work. That part wanted a veto, so we agreed to a hand signal that would pause processing anytime, no questions asked.
When we began desensitization, we did not start with the day her father died. We started with the sensory moment of the phone ringing during dinner for weeks after, followed by the quiet that settled like dust. Sets were short, tactile, and slow. Twice she drifted away; we paused, she oriented, we returned to safe place, and we stopped for the day. No forcing, no drama.
Three months in, Maya reported fewer afternoon crashes and fewer arguments with her partner. She could tell when she was about to numb out and would squeeze a therapy ball at her desk while looking out a window. Six months in, we processed a slice of the hospital memory. She cried, felt young, then felt herself come back into her adult body. Afterward, she said, “I didn’t disappear. I thought I had to, but I didn’t.” That shift, small on the outside, was enormous inside.
Between-session care that matters
EMDR is not only what happens in the hour. The nervous system learns through repetition and context. A simple plan for the 24 to 72 hours after sessions helps reduce fallout and consolidate gains.
- Light structure. Keep the next day modest. Shorten intense workouts and skip alcohol. Gentle body care. Hydrate, eat steady meals, and favor warm showers or baths to cue safety. Micro-practices. Do two to three minutes of orienting or weighted presence, three times a day, regardless of how you feel. Communicate boundaries. Let close others know you may be quieter. Share how to support you without prying. Log signals. Jot quick notes about sleep, dreams, spikes of numbness or overwhelm, and what helped.
These are not rigid rules. They are scaffolds that help your system learn a new rhythm.
When therapy involves loved ones
If your dissociation strains your relationship, bringing a partner into one or two EMDR sessions can be wise, not to process trauma together, but to learn your early warning signs and co-regulation moves. Couples therapy can then deepen these skills and address patterns that predate trauma work, like withdrawal or blame cycles. In families where a parent is doing trauma therapy, a single family therapy meeting can set expectations and reduce misinterpretations, especially with teenagers who may notice shifts and assume the worst. Everyone benefits when the home culture normalizes grounding: “I’m getting floaty, I’m going to sit with my weighted blanket for ten minutes,” becomes as ordinary as “I’m stepping out to take a call.”
Finding a clinician who knows this territory
Credentials matter less than competence, and competence is specific. Ask prospective therapists how they adapt EMDR for dissociation. Listen for preparation, pacing, parts work, and collaborative consent. Ask about coordination with prescribers, and whether they have consultation support for complex dissociation. If grief dominates your story, ask how they integrate grief therapy within EMDR. If your relationship is affected, ask whether they collaborate with couples therapists or provide guidance for partners. The goal is a team that respects your nervous system’s wisdom while guiding it toward freedom.
What if you tried EMDR before and it backfired
I hear this often. Someone did standard EMDR, dissociated hard, and left feeling worse. That experience can be disheartening, but it does not mean EMDR is off the table. It means the sequence was off. We can revisit with more preparation, different bilateral modalities, tighter titration, and explicit consent from all parts involved. Sometimes we start with two or three sessions of pure resourcing, then pause to assess life changes. Processing can wait until the scaffolding is solid.
The long view
Healing dissociation is not about erasing a strategy that saved you. It is about choice. You learn when to step back inside your body and when to step out a little, and you do so on purpose. Over time, the need to step out diminishes because the present is not shaped by the past in the same way. EMDR Therapy, used thoughtfully, moves you toward that freedom by making grounding and safety the main event, not a prelude. In my practice, the clients who progress the farthest are not the ones who “push through,” but the ones who honor their pace, practice their skills when nothing is wrong, and let support in.
If dissociation has made life feel like a slide you cannot stop, know that there is a way to build traction. It does not require heroics. It requires a therapist who understands dissociation, the patience to prepare well, and a commitment to small, consistent steps. With that, processing becomes possible, and the bridge back to yourself becomes reliable enough to cross whenever you need.
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The site says the practice offers both in-person and online therapy, while the FAQ also notes that most sessions are conducted online and in-person availability is more limited.
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Who does the practice work with?
The Wheat Ridge page says the practice serves individuals, couples, and families, including adults, teens, adolescents, and children.
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The website says the practice offers both in-person and online therapy in Wheat Ridge and across Colorado, but the FAQ also says most sessions are online and that in-person availability is limited.
Does Mind, Body, Soulmates offer a consultation?
Yes. The site repeatedly invites prospective clients to schedule a free consultation so the practice can learn more about the person’s goals and help match them with an appropriate therapist.
What fees are listed on the website?
The FAQ lists individual sessions at $150 for 50 minutes, couples sessions at $180 to $200 for 60 minutes, family sessions at $150 for one member plus $30 for each additional family member, and an added $15 charge for after-hours and weekend appointments.
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